Your sexual orientation is not a choice.

Nature made people the way they are and thankfully the society you and I live in has evolved enough to recognise that that's ok. There's nothing wrong with being homosexual.

Yet, a few religions would like us to believe that based on their anciently, outdated views, which in turn are based on books that have been rewritten and translated so many times that no one actually quite knows what was in them in the first place, homosexuality is not only wrong in the eyes of some divine higher being, but also that it is something that can be cured.

The implication is of course that it is a disease that can be managed like a cold or rash.

That's nonsense!

Yet, even in England some therapists admit that upon a patient's request they would attempt to change a patient's sexual orientation (4%). Another 17% admit that they have tried to help patients "curb their homosexual feelings".

That is shocking news!

It is understandable that therapists want to try to help patients that come seeking it. However, it is also their duty to stay clear of therapies that can actually be harmful.

Therapist should be helping gay people that are struggling to come terms with their sexual orientation and make them see that they are not wrong, strange or ill, just different from the norm. And there's nothing wrong with that.

Previoulsy people were locked up and given electro shock therapy because they were thought to be haunted by the devil, when in fact they were epileptic. Today this seems outrageous.

Trying to "cure" homosexuality is just as outrageous.

Generally people don't like change.

A sweeping statement, I know, but I fall into that category too (more often than I'd like to admit).

Humans, just like animals, are creatures of habit. We get used to something we like (sometimes even something we don't like) and when a change of that habit looms, we curl up in despair, crying "But why?".

I should be used to change. Or rather I am used to it.

I travel for work a lot, change projects every couple of months and I've live in a few countries and cities. So change does come quite naturally to me, but I do have to admit that once I get into certain habits I sometimes find it hard to let go of them. Whether that's restaurants, shops, clothes etc.

One place that is constantly changing and should be is the internet. Websites change their look and feel every couple of years, they introduce new features and generally users scream that the old was better.

Facebook is a particularly good example of that. The social networking site has evolved significantly from its first form of simple connected profile pages to the lets-share-and-document-our-entire-lives site it has become now.

So when it introduced the latest changes to its functionality, which turned its newsfeed into something more of a twitter-esque "who's doing what RIGHT NOW" source of information, users cried again that they wanted the old version back.

But they've done that before. Users have always come out in hordes saying how much they hate the new layout, but in the end they got on with and used to it and in the end quite like it. The introduction of the newsfeed in 2006 is probably the best example of that.

What they learned from that backlash is informing users of the upcoming changes and soliciting their feedback might actually be a good idea.

They did that for the last change when there was a significant front end overhaul, but not this time, which is strange.

Again, with all the people protesting right now, sooner or later people will just get on with it.

But it is interesting to note that if change is managed gradually, the transition is still bumpy, but a lot less rocky than if you go for the big bang approach.

Love is tough. Yet great. But also a lot of work.

And that is something a lot of us choose to forget.

A study from the university of Edinburgh found evidence that romantic comedies can spoil your love life.

Why?

Simply because they create the unrealistic expectation that "... if someone is meant to be with you, then they should know what you want without you telling them".

This very much reminds me of the standard line "Well, if you don't know what's wrong then there's no point in telling you!"

You'd think it's common sense that communication is key to a healthy relationship. Yet many of believe in the unspoken word.

Ladies, here's one word of advice from a man:

Men don't understand hints, allusions, signs or whatever you can come up with to avoid telling it straight.

Of course there's always diplomatic or more or less tactful ways of expressing something (esp. when it's hurtful), but overall saying it straight will get you better results.

It should work both ways.